Hi Steve, sorry I wasn't very clear.
I was trying to relate the disorientating difference in scale seen in the conjunction. Most people know Jupiter is the largest planet and expect it to be so; but seeing Venus with it in the same view, it is strange to see Venus larger than one would expect it to be. It's kind of a shock and takes a minute to reason oneself through the explanation (how large Jupiter really must be given how much farther away it is, and so forth).
When I wrote "it was the same" I was thinking of this feeling of dissonance rather than the sizes being the same as what I had seen before.
I think another factor was I was at low power (35x) so the disk sizes were smaller making it more difficult to judge sizes. Jupiter's disk was plainly seen, but Venus' wasn't as clean, refracting through the atmosphere and with some diffraction spikes in the view. A lot of the guests didn't refocus when they looked through the scope so the images may have been poor. All of this making it harder to make a really good comparison.